One of my guy friends walked up to me and said, “You look
suspicious!” He proceeded to call me a “Fed” and I laughed. He thought because
I was hanging with the guys, I was taking mental notes on who was creeping with
who, etc. just to report it all back to the girls. I had pretty much spent most
of my Alma Mater's homecoming weekend with the fellas. I only did that because I
always have the best time with them, they look out for me, and it’s no drama. I
was definitely not there to be a snitch, but I will say I collected quite a bit
of great CONVERSATION material over the weekend for my blog. THANKS BOYS! :)
One conversation really caught me by surprise. I was made
privy to a phenomena unheard of in female conversation. This phenomena was that
if they (good men) attempt to behave like a good guy, not pressuring ladies for
sex, not running game or playing you… that we ladies don’t know how to
appreciate it. One guy went even further and said “I don’t have the juice
anymore now that I’m choosing to be nice.” He then described how when he was
acting up, his phone was blowing up as if women anticipated “doggish" ways and
desired it. He spoke about how now that he is not looking for sex but a serious
monogamous type of relationship, women are literally running away from him. GEEZ. As many times as I’ve heard women say they can’t find a good man, I just couldn’t
believe that some guys feels as though we encourage their bad behavior and
accept it. LADIES DO BETTER! Ladies,
who accept bad behavior and seek to be treated terribly because they love the
drama, mess it up for the good girls waiting for a good guy. Even with this
happening, GOOD GUYS DON’T GIVE UP ON BEING NICE! YOUR PATIENCE WILL GET YOU A
TREASURE OF A WOMAN WHO WILL MAKE YOUR LIFE EXCEPTIONAL. My man will be so
spoiled when he wife’s me up. I can’t wait to treat him like the king he is.
Now, maybe some men
put us women through so much that when we meet a nice guy we don’t know how to
act, but this can’t be the norm!? Right ladies? Do we do this often? Do we
really run good men away based on bringing up our old baggage, in an attempt to
protect our heart from being hurt again? I kept arguing with the guys that we hate
getting our heart broken. We hate when males don’t grow out of their love for bachelor
life and desire to juggle multiple women. We don’t like feeling that itch to
check your phones or fight over silly stuff. If you know you have a good man treat him well! If he does not, cut the crap. Women, we’ve got to learn to love
ourselves enough to desire good treatment, expect it, and move on from guys
who don’t give the respect you deserve. Don’t stay in a relationship where you
are treated terribly and then hate all men after you chose to stay in a sour
relationship because you thought you loved him or because he could “put it down".
Lastly, GOOD GUYS…YOU JUST MIGHT “finish last”, but what if
the last man’s reward is the greater prize. Your crew might talk about you and your ego might
not be boosted when you’re not out there acting a fool, but so what. I’m sure
God is up there smiling at you and he will bless you for it. Think about your
future daughters too. Treat women like you want men to treat you mom or future daughter. We
are such an impatient generation. Who cares if you have to be the only one in
your crew doing right? DO RIGHT ANYWAY. Who cares if everyone else is bae’d up? Singlehood is great if you make it that way. BUILD YOUR EMPIRE. I love being single because I
choose to be. I will love being a relationship because I will choose to be. I
won’t settle just because my generation is. I will wait and have what’s mine,
at the right time. What about you?!
Love you MR. NICE GUYS… This one was for you!
GAB
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