Why Sex Matters

We had a good time. Our date was interesting. I think we clicked actually. But one little wrench threw the whole situation off. He asked me if I expected sex in a relationship. My initial thought reaction was if you have to ask me that, YOU are expecting sex at some point. I confidently said, “Nope! I am waiting until marriage to have sex, so no." He seriously died slowly before my eyes in his seat. After a few seconds of awkward laughter he mustered up a speech on why my choice was respectable. I tried to coach him through my decision, but I knew my comments threw him right off. His excitable countenance became dull. He was distraught over thinking he found a great woman but was sad he was not able to express his desires for her through sex. (SN: ladies and gents YOU SHOULD HAVE  MORE TO OFFER THAN SEX) In his mind, the fact that an attractive girl with a checklist of marriage qualities, was incapable of providing something that he felt was almost non-negotiable wrecked him. I was laughing on the inside. 

I've been through this before. I have the t-shirt and the key chain in commemoration. I'll meet a guy, and he will be so interested in me. But when he finds out I am not sleeping with him, he eventually stops calling and texting. He finds a female willing to satisfy his desires temporarily, and drops me for them. Cool. lol When I told a friend about what happened, he stated, "man you must feel bad." I have to say it’s not enjoyable, but it is definitely not sad to me, nor do I feel bad. Telling men I am not sleeping with them protects me from the ones that are up to no good. SEX is spiritual. This is why sex matters to God. It's a unification of TWO as ONE. Therefore, the man who the lord speaks to and tells to pursue me as his wife, will be willing to wait. He will understand God's love in a way that encourages him to show me true love through waiting. This isn’t a fairy tale idea I have come up with, it is an ideology of faith I have in God and his love of marriage. Marriage is a Godly thing. A good godly marriage glorifies him and brings more souls to his kingdom. We can’t play matchmaker for ourselves because we might not know every characteristic we need in our spouse that will complement us, but he does. Honestly, even if I never got married it will be the best life lived for me because God knows what is best for me and I trust him. Yet, I truly believe that marriage is in his plan for me because of Psalms 21:2.

In our society today, sadly, sex comes along with casual relationships and the repercussions are life changing. It is no longer considered sacred for marriage, and with our culture promoting immoral sexuality and extreme pleasure, it seems IMPOSSIBLE to remain abstinent. BUT you know what, it is very possible. It is a mindset and it takes understanding and the removal of a lifestyle that is opposite of a Christ-like lifestyle. We forget earth and it's pleasures are temporary. You know if you look at the bible, we see we may be living in the last of the last days. I can’t tell you how far along we are, but I know the word tells us to be watchful, encouraged, and passionate about telling others about the lord and be consistent in our faith when things start looking dark and evil. Living a holy life is beneficial to us. It is protection and a testimony to others saved and unsaved alike. If you are making mistakes, don't quit on your walk with the lord. I sure don't quit when I fall. Being perfect is not your ticket to heaven.  TO BE HONEST a simple belief, the accepting of  Jesus, and his forgiveness is our only ticket to heaven.(Romans 10:9-10) We could never live "right enough" for him to let us enter in. The reason he ask us to live our lives in a way that reps him is to show the world what a wonderful life looks like when it is COVERED AND SMOTHERED in Christ and his word! IT BENEFITS YOU AND OTHERS!

Man, I love Jesus! The bible says, “Taste and see that the Lord is good!” I have tasted and I have seen and he sure is AMAZING. I don’t see anything in the world that can fill me and satisfy me like he can. Dating is great, I love a good man. The way his cologne smells, his stature, the way a strong Christian man prays, the way he looks at you when he’s attracted to you. Yet, that can’t satisfy me. I like to be among friends, I’ve been to great parties, and have had some nights to remember. But NOTHING has ever mattered to me more than my relationship with Christ. The thrills of this life mean nothing to me without Jesus. I want to spend eternity with him knowing he used me for his purpose and that I was not selfish with my life on earth. I am storing up eternal treasures! I want you to see this truth too.

I pray this blog blessed you in a way that encourages you to accept Christ amazing love and his precious gifts of forgiveness, purpose, and unlimited blessings so that you can share it with others and transform lives around you.

Love,
Gab