Don't Listen to Your "Homegirls"

I was talking to a group of ladies and in the midst of my yapping away about a situation, one friend yelled out, "Girl that couldn't have been me!" I paused and thought to myself girl...what do you mean that couldn't have been you? Its been you time and time again in even worse situations!

Don't we all have that one friend who gives out all this crazy advice but never listens? That one friend that's always single, tells you what not to put up with in your relationships, but never seems to have a man or help you get and keep a man. 

Guys say over and over again to their ladies, "Keep your home girls out of our business." I am literally in tears laughing at this one time I was dating a guy and we got into a small argument right before I was leaving his house. After I won (hahaha) and he complied with my request, he said ,"I know you're about to go out to eat with your girls, so don't go tell them what happened making it seem like I'm a bad guy." I lied and said, "of course not this is our relationship," and spilled every detail to my girls as soon I got in our booth at the restaurant. 

Ladies, we love to talk to our girls about what's going on. We look for clarity, support, and safety among our friends. Our girls help us kick him to the curb when he's doing us wrong or tell us to do better if the guy you have is a good one. I beg my friends to stay with their guys if I know he has a good heart. I warn them that it's hard out here, so don't be silly. But I'm also the first one to help you make him miserable if he's a dog..it all depends on the circumstance :)

Anyway, the point I am trying to make is... LADIES share what you need to share, but practice keeping some things to yourself. In a marriage, EVERYONE should not be included in your relationship. You want to practice these good habits now. Have you seen the pyramid diagram of godly relationships? At the bottom corners it's you on the left and the guy on the right. The top point is Christ. Christ has to be the center, the focus, and the goal. In this day and age the devil is destroying families, and we need to find ways to make them last! God has to be the source.

You know why I write these blogs? I am heart broken over my generations terrible ideologies on love, family, and marriage. Some of us have got to do it better than those before us, but we can't do that if we don't think differently than they did! I hate seeing failed relationships turn people bitter and their heart cold. One day I will meet the man I am suppose to marry. I write these blogs so that I can talk about ways I am preparing myself right now to make his married life better than he could ever imagine, because I definitely expect him to do the same for me. But it takes two!

Therefore ladies... YES, even me ..sometimes we need to SHUT-UP and keep things just between ourselves and our lover. DRAMA always starts from outside sources tampering with the inner workings. ALL I need is my holy ghost to make me aware of issues, and then build trust with my partner. So that if I bring up a situation that concerns me, I can trust him to answer truthfully and then leave it alone. It is not healthy to NEVER be able to trust your man. That is a pointless relationship. Choose someone you can rely on, grow with, and depend on. If they carry these qualities, you BETTER hold the same.

Alright the rant is over. Love you all who read.

Gabs xoxo