We met under interesting circumstances. He and I did not click when we initially met, and I knew we would never be more than associates. He was coming into town for the weekend, and when he asked me out, I accepted his invitation to be nice. I should have know by the way he was behaving he really just wanted a girl to show off to his friends. His conversation prior to our date consisted of, “a beauty queen knows how to represent, you're good at being arm candy.” Alarm number one. Yet, I convinced myself he still seemed like a nice guy. After all, his IG page contained #gentleman and #Christian in the bio.
I know, I know... I seem all judgmental and harsh in tone when talking about this fellow, but I am in shock that I was treated so terribly on the date. I need to give a great THANK YOU and pat on the back to some of the guys I have dated, because I have NEVER seen what I experienced on this occasion…#spoiled.
When guys ask ladies on dates, it doesn’t always have to be about trying to ‘wife you up’. Sometimes it is simply friendly fun. This guy couldn’t even provide that. He was jealous when other guys hit on me throughout the evening and the only reason guys had the opportunity to talk to me, was because he kept leaving me. Numerous times he walked away awkwardly leaving me to stare at my phone, faking like I was occupied. He made dry conversation mainly about himself, and he even disappeared at the end of the “date”. I had to walk myself to my car and was obligated to pay for my own parking. Statistically, men still make more money than women, and we are currently fighting the “glass ceiling” in the workplace. Therefore, I shouldn’t be paying for anything. HAHAHA. I’m kidding. But you all know what I mean. Men should still be gentleman and take care of the lady when he asks her on a date. I’ve never gone on a date with a guy that didn’t. This guy didn’t even text me at the end of the night to thank me for coming, or to see if I made it home.
So.. you might be wondering, why did I even give this type of dude any of my precious time?
Well, when you know better you do better.
Yet, the reason I am sharing this is on a larger scale of things. Why do we let anyone who should not be in our life, stay, and waste any of our time? You know and understand when someone is bringing you down or building you up. Yet, we date crazy people who wreck our lives for YEARS just so we won’t be lonely or uncomfortable finding someone new. We are so impatient! Until we are fed up, broken, and in need of God's repairing after we’re sick and tired of the mess we’ve created. No condemnation on you if it has taken that long to let someone go, but don’t make it a habit to hold on to no good. Beyond this, why do we entertain unnecessary things and let it fill our lives and distract us from our true purpose? We have a duty to identify people and things that will bring us down, and to accept people and opportunities that build us up! We have one life. One life that does not consist of redo's, but of lessons learned and opportunities to grow and make our lives meaningful. We have the power to overcome obstacles with the Lord's help, and to use every gift and talent for his glory and for the benefit of others. Yet, we waste so much time on foolishness.
I just want to encourage my generation to see past all of the distractions and nonsense we entertain and find focus again. It is possible. Lord knows I am trying but it is hard. If we do it together it would make a world of difference.
This date taught me a lesson, if YOU KNOW someone or something will be a waste of time, DROP IT..FAST...spare yourself the trouble :)
Love You!
Ephesians 5:15-17 Look carefully then
how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time,
because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the
will of the Lord is.
Psalm 90:12 So teach us to number our days that we
may get a heart of wisdom.
Colossians 4:5 Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making
the best use of the time.
xoxo,Gab
Another great read. Keep up the good work Gabs!
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