Why Sex Matters

We had a good time. Our date was interesting. I think we clicked actually. But one little wrench threw the whole situation off. He asked me if I expected sex in a relationship. My initial thought reaction was if you have to ask me that, YOU are expecting sex at some point. I confidently said, “Nope! I am waiting until marriage to have sex, so no." He seriously died slowly before my eyes in his seat. After a few seconds of awkward laughter he mustered up a speech on why my choice was respectable. I tried to coach him through my decision, but I knew my comments threw him right off. His excitable countenance became dull. He was distraught over thinking he found a great woman but was sad he was not able to express his desires for her through sex. (SN: ladies and gents YOU SHOULD HAVE  MORE TO OFFER THAN SEX) In his mind, the fact that an attractive girl with a checklist of marriage qualities, was incapable of providing something that he felt was almost non-negotiable wrecked him. I was laughing on the inside. 

I've been through this before. I have the t-shirt and the key chain in commemoration. I'll meet a guy, and he will be so interested in me. But when he finds out I am not sleeping with him, he eventually stops calling and texting. He finds a female willing to satisfy his desires temporarily, and drops me for them. Cool. lol When I told a friend about what happened, he stated, "man you must feel bad." I have to say it’s not enjoyable, but it is definitely not sad to me, nor do I feel bad. Telling men I am not sleeping with them protects me from the ones that are up to no good. SEX is spiritual. This is why sex matters to God. It's a unification of TWO as ONE. Therefore, the man who the lord speaks to and tells to pursue me as his wife, will be willing to wait. He will understand God's love in a way that encourages him to show me true love through waiting. This isn’t a fairy tale idea I have come up with, it is an ideology of faith I have in God and his love of marriage. Marriage is a Godly thing. A good godly marriage glorifies him and brings more souls to his kingdom. We can’t play matchmaker for ourselves because we might not know every characteristic we need in our spouse that will complement us, but he does. Honestly, even if I never got married it will be the best life lived for me because God knows what is best for me and I trust him. Yet, I truly believe that marriage is in his plan for me because of Psalms 21:2.

In our society today, sadly, sex comes along with casual relationships and the repercussions are life changing. It is no longer considered sacred for marriage, and with our culture promoting immoral sexuality and extreme pleasure, it seems IMPOSSIBLE to remain abstinent. BUT you know what, it is very possible. It is a mindset and it takes understanding and the removal of a lifestyle that is opposite of a Christ-like lifestyle. We forget earth and it's pleasures are temporary. You know if you look at the bible, we see we may be living in the last of the last days. I can’t tell you how far along we are, but I know the word tells us to be watchful, encouraged, and passionate about telling others about the lord and be consistent in our faith when things start looking dark and evil. Living a holy life is beneficial to us. It is protection and a testimony to others saved and unsaved alike. If you are making mistakes, don't quit on your walk with the lord. I sure don't quit when I fall. Being perfect is not your ticket to heaven.  TO BE HONEST a simple belief, the accepting of  Jesus, and his forgiveness is our only ticket to heaven.(Romans 10:9-10) We could never live "right enough" for him to let us enter in. The reason he ask us to live our lives in a way that reps him is to show the world what a wonderful life looks like when it is COVERED AND SMOTHERED in Christ and his word! IT BENEFITS YOU AND OTHERS!

Man, I love Jesus! The bible says, “Taste and see that the Lord is good!” I have tasted and I have seen and he sure is AMAZING. I don’t see anything in the world that can fill me and satisfy me like he can. Dating is great, I love a good man. The way his cologne smells, his stature, the way a strong Christian man prays, the way he looks at you when he’s attracted to you. Yet, that can’t satisfy me. I like to be among friends, I’ve been to great parties, and have had some nights to remember. But NOTHING has ever mattered to me more than my relationship with Christ. The thrills of this life mean nothing to me without Jesus. I want to spend eternity with him knowing he used me for his purpose and that I was not selfish with my life on earth. I am storing up eternal treasures! I want you to see this truth too.

I pray this blog blessed you in a way that encourages you to accept Christ amazing love and his precious gifts of forgiveness, purpose, and unlimited blessings so that you can share it with others and transform lives around you.

Love,
Gab

Worst Date Ever..Wasted Time

A couple of weeks ago I went on the worst date ever! #truelife #lol The guy invited me out, exemplified no chivalry or tact, and just plain wasted my time. The next morning I woke up mad.  Haha, harsh I know. Let me explain.

We met under interesting circumstances.  He and I did not click when we initially met, and I knew we would never be more than associates. He was coming into town for the weekend, and when he asked me out, I accepted his invitation to be nice.  I should have know by the way he was behaving he really just wanted a girl to show off to his friends.  His conversation prior to our date consisted of, “a beauty queen knows how to represent, you're good at being arm candy.”  Alarm number one. Yet, I convinced myself he still seemed like a nice guy. After all, his IG page contained #gentleman and #Christian in the bio.

I know, I know... I seem all judgmental and harsh in tone when talking about this fellow, but I am in shock that I was treated so terribly on the date. I need to give a great THANK YOU and pat on the back to some of the guys I have dated, because I have NEVER seen what I experienced on this occasion…#spoiled.

When guys ask ladies on dates, it doesn’t always have to be about trying to ‘wife you up’. Sometimes it is simply friendly fun. This guy couldn’t even provide that. He was jealous when other guys hit on me throughout the evening and the only reason guys had the opportunity to talk to me, was because he kept leaving me. Numerous times he walked away awkwardly leaving me to stare at my phone,  faking like I was occupied. He made dry conversation mainly about himself, and he even disappeared at the end of the “date”. I had to walk myself to my car and was obligated to pay for my own parking. Statistically, men still make more money than women, and we are currently fighting the “glass ceiling”  in the workplace. Therefore, I shouldn’t be paying for anything. HAHAHA. I’m kidding. But you all know what I mean. Men should still be gentleman and take care of the lady when he asks her on a date. I’ve never gone on a date with a guy that didn’t.  This guy didn’t even text me at the end of the night to thank me for coming, or to see if I made it home.

So.. you might be wondering, why did I even give this type of dude any of my precious time?

Well, when you know better you do better.

Yet, the reason I am sharing this is on a larger scale of things. Why do we let anyone who should not be in our life, stay, and waste any of our time? You know and understand when someone is bringing you down or building you up. Yet, we date crazy people who wreck our lives for YEARS just so we won’t be lonely or uncomfortable finding someone new. We are so impatient! Until we are fed up, broken, and in need of God's repairing after we’re sick and tired of the mess we’ve created.  No condemnation on you if it has taken that long to let someone go, but don’t make it a habit to hold on to no good.  Beyond this, why do we entertain unnecessary things and let it fill our lives and distract us from our true purpose?  We have a duty to identify people and things that will bring us down, and to accept people and opportunities that build us up! We have one life. One life that does not consist of redo's, but of lessons learned and opportunities to grow and make our lives meaningful. We have the power to overcome obstacles with the Lord's help, and to use every gift and talent for his glory and for the benefit of others. Yet, we waste so much time on foolishness. 

I just want to encourage my generation to see past all of the distractions and nonsense we entertain and find focus again. It is possible. Lord knows I am trying but it is hard. If we do it together it would make a world of difference.

This date taught me a lesson, if YOU KNOW someone or something will be a waste of time, DROP IT..FAST...spare yourself the trouble :)

Love You!

Ephesians 5:15-17 Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.

Psalm 90:12 So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.

Colossians 4:5  Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time.

xoxo,
Gab