When I was a kid I was taught that rules are meant for your protection, not to kill the fun. I was so focused on all of the things I could not do, that I did not think about all of the things I could. As I grew older, I realized this statement was so true and rules really did protect me. Having and setting boundaries were beneficial. Think about it. If there were no rules on the road, how many more reckless drivers would we have? There would be no order and driving would be even scarier and more unsafe than it already can be. What if we didn't adhere to road regulations? We could drive on both sides of the road or skip past stop signs and ride through red lights. There would be mass chaos!
So if rules are implemented to provide order and security, why don't we adhere to setting boundaries and regulations while we date? We think we should just follow our emotions and our heart, which can lead us into trouble. Our emotions change and our heart may not always lead us in the right direction. This is why wisdom, great godly advice, and rules can be so beneficial to our dating experience, So that we don't facilitate emotional chaos.
I remember having a conversation with this guy I was dating about different boundaries I was asking him to respect while we dated. He was baffled that I really lived by what I was saying and that I expected him to help me uphold my standards. I asked him, "how many women have you met that are broken, unstable, and not so great to date because they are overwhelmed with past relationships? They don't trust, are insecure, and unpleasant." He said, "so many." I began to express to him it was because unfortunately they allowed a man to give them a bad dating experience, which left them hurt and scarred. I didn't want to carry baggage from bad past relationships into healthy ones. Therefore, I protect my heart and body from frivolous dating. I don't want to be a broken woman who doesn't responsibly carry her own heart. Me and that crazy guy eventually parted ways and I left that relationship whole because I followed the boundaries I had set for myself.
Women sometimes act so impatient and so eager to date that we just throw away our good judgment. We can go against all we believe for love when we don't have to. We have so much power in our hands that we do not utilize. A good man who realizes your value will be so excited to date you that he will do whatever it takes to keep you. He will be patient, kind, and attentive. You won't have to get out of character or do things beneath your standards to keep him. WE CAN WIN IN RELATIONSHIPS IF WE FOLLOW WINNERS RULES. I will go into detail about what those winning rules are in another blog.
Love you!
Gab
