Alright , now you knoooow I don't believe I'm never getting married.
Yet, how many women have had this thought before.
Let me take you down a funny memory lane..and why this thought of never getting married popped up in my head!
In middle school, the guy I liked told me I was ugly (hahaha!). In high school, the guy I was crazy about decided to kiss me (and I mean a big french one) in front of my locker, after I had turned him down for a kiss the day before. (I was so hurt I stayed home the from school the next day lol!) In college, I stayed single because most men wanted to have date and have sex. As you know, I am waiting for marriage, so when I finally thought I met a "good Christian guy" who wanted to wait with me, he instead tried to use the bible to tell me why we should be having sex. (Gross dude, C'mon you want to manipulate the bible for sex? Just go elsewhere! Which he eventually did.) Anyway, although some of my experiences were funny, these things can make a good girl go bad, get bitter, or give up... I'm telling you DON'T!
Throughout my life despite the negativity, I've always let my optimism outweigh the bad. I would tell myself , "Gab you're pretty, smart, young.... I promise you won't be single forever." Then I'd meet an idiot and he'd make me question my optimism. HAHA. You see great Christian couples on Instagram or in your life and say, "WOW! They are some of the lucky ones." Truth is, these are all simply thoughts. My faith never lets me dwell on these things. If we trust God in every other area of our lives, why not in our relationships? IT'S WHEN WE LIVE IN FEAR and DON'T TRUST GOD that we settle for less than we deserve, fall into unnecessary sin, or give ourselves stress we don't have to carry!
Although I am not married yet, and I am still just dating, I trust that what's for me I will never miss. God never fails. He gives us the desires of our heart according to Psalms 21:2, and if you are getting impatient fill your time with something fulfilling so that you are giving your spirit life. You want to be so involved with your happy life that when you meet that special someone they will simply add to your happiness, not complete it. They can't anyway. I believe there is somebody for everybody if you welcome it! Use wisdom, learn from your mistakes, be optimistic, and receive godly council while you date. Most of all, if you're single LIVE YOUR LIFE! The bible says being single is a gift, so think of it as that. That way, when you receive the gift of marriage you will be grateful and want to make it last. Lastly, never say never. Although my title says, "Why I Am Never Getting Married," I don't believe that at all. If you've had these sentiments, throw them away.
xo,
Gabby
