Messy

One slap and it was all she wrote. The two girls were rolling around, pulling hair, and stomping on egos. You could call it the derogatory term “cat fight” and say it was similar to one of those fights on “Bad Girls Club”.  One girl yelled “We don’t have to do this”, while the other screamed, “***** I hate you!” The two young ladies fighting were way beyond the age of school yard fist fights. They were grown women. They were old enough to acquire jobs, a mortgage, and maybe a husband/kid or two.

Humans and human nature never cease to amaze me. What brings two people to the verge of fighting? My guess and calculated answer would be gossip, pride, and un-checked egos. I am appalled at how no matter how old we get, many “adults” still produce child-like behavior. They pick at people, seek revenge, hit back when they are pushed, and spread rumors to defame someone’s name. I work with  9-12 year olds every day and this behavior sounds way too familiar.Why don’t people grow up? Why does “an eye for an eye and tooth for a tooth” seem so embedded into our psyche, making us assume we must physically hurt those who verbally abuse us? In the case of the altercation aforementioned, one young lady was extremely jealous of the other and wanted to render bodily harm in order to release her aggression. 

There are a few scriptures I love that state:

·         “Bless those who curse you.”  Romans 12:14

·         “Love your enemies.”  Matt  5:44

·         "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head." Romans 12:20

GOD surely TAKES CARE OF HIS CHILDREN THAT ARE TREATED WRONG, AND HE KNOWS HOW TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR ENEMIES AS WELL. You don’t have to fight to win your battles with people that don’t like you. I mean, a tongue lashing is needed here or there, but it should be one that is beneficial and not for appeasing of your SELFISH pride.

God has shown me NUMEROUS TIMES that he will take care of me if I let him and not try to get revenge on my own. One funny occasion God showed me he had my back was in 7^th grade.  Gabby in 7^th grade was hilarious. I had no style, I was super friendly and often the brunt of many jokes because I was so different. I was not cool nor considered a pretty girl until high school, BUT I was always popular for being “outlandish” lol. I was the “super saint” and everyone called me church girl. One day on the bus I was talking to a person in the seat next to me. A girl who I normally never had issues with stood up and yelled at me,  “Shut the #### up!”  I couldn’t believe she was talking to me, so I said, “Who are you talking to?” She proceeded to tell me that it was me she was referring to, and if I had a problem she could fix it. The entire bus yelled “oooh she told you”. I sat quietly for a second turned around and continued with my conversation. The girl did not lay a finger on me and everyone was shocked I held my composure.  

God was glorified. Those students rarely saw a person utilize self -control. I walked off of the bus at my stop, and as I entered my house I began to pray. I said, “Lord you know I can’t fight, I don’t want to fight, and I don’t need to fight. Can you just help miss crazy girl and help ya girl Gabby out from this bully. ” Well, the next day they girl was not on the bus. The next week she was not on the bus and finally, someone noticed and said, "where is 'so and so'?” A boy yelled, “oh she moved last weekend!” Literally, a day or two after I prayed she moved. You may call it coincidence, but I call it divine intervention! HAHA.

Stories like this happened and still happen all the time. I mean all of the outcomes aren’t people moving away, but I have plenty more stories that I could share.  My goal in sharing this blog is to tell you LET GOD FIGHT YOUR BATTLES. He gives a way better outcome to your situations than you can. Don’t fall into the world’s idea of handling those who treat you wrong.

HUMANS WILL BE HUMANS AND SOMETIMES THEY WILL FAIL YOU!! POINT. BLANK. PERIOD.

Our job is to trust our creator to protect and uplift us while we become a beacon light for our haters.

God has got your back and will NEVER FAIL YOU. TRUST HIM!

Love, Gabs

Dirty Minds

He is tall dark and handsome. Every time you see him, he seems more tempting because he's just that FINE. You are a flirt, so you send little harmless hints that you are interested in him but you never act on it because you know better. What you can’t help is how your mind runs wild, although you have every intent to do the right thing.

Welp, we've all seen the movies that depict love at first sight. Two highly attractive people see each other, lock eyes, and then all of a sudden they are rolling around in a bed. UGHH Hollywood loves to sell sex but in the Christian young mind, these images can imprint on the mind causing lustful desires that God says is a sin in itself.  The word says, “if you look at a (person) in lust you commit adultery in your heart.”(Matt 5:28)

Protecting your MIND/HEART is so important to God because what we focus on and fill ourselves with will directly affect our actions. You may have every intent on following God but if you’re surrounded by people and things that promote sin you will FAIL, MISERABLY. Then you will wonder why things keep going wrong and why you can’t get right. It is because you have not surrendered your heart and mind, both which lead and steer our actions/lives.

The bible says –

1. Above ALL else guard your heart for it affects everything you do. (Proverbs 4:23)

2. Think on things above, not beneath, where Christ sits at the right hand of the father. (Colossians 3:1)

3. Put to death earthly desires, sexual immorality, impurity, passions, evil desires. (Colossians 3:5)

3. Be transformed by the renewing of your mind. (Romans 12:1-2)

That is the only way your actions will line up with the word, when you get a new mindset.

Honestly, when you realize God's love and how living clean benefits you more than sin, you won’t want to do wrong anymore. BE RELEASED from the trick of the enemy that it is more fun and fulfilling to sin. The sin-filled life is actually empty and unfulfilled, and looking for the next high becomes exhausting.

GIVE THE DEVIL AN INCH AND HE WILL BECOME YOUR RULER. I am not saying make yourself perfect, because you can’t. What I’m offering is a better way to live that is full of peace and blessings in a world full of sin, sadness, and sickness. That is a simple changing of your thoughts.

How important is it to protect the mind? Well, the eye-gate is a pathway to the soul and from within our soul/heart flows the wellspring of life according to Proverbs!

Allow God to transform you for THE BETTER.

2^ND THESSALONIANS 3:3 SAYS "BUT THE LORD IS FAITHFUL. HE WILL ESTABLISH YOU AND GUARD YOU AGAINST THE EVIL ONE."

Cleanse your mind with the washing/purifying water of the word of GOD.
You wouldn’t drink tainted water if you knew it made you sick, gave you bad acne, and pain to your organs, no! So why fill your spirit with the trash this world offers?

-turn off the nasty music
-leave that person alone whose causes you to lust
-stay away from tempting situations
-stop watching those sex promoting shows

I’M NOT PREACHING DOWN TO YOU, I'M TALKING  TO MYSELF AS WELL. HOW CAN WE CHANGE THE WORLD IF WE DON’T FIRST CHANGE OURSELVES? HOW CAN WE ASK GOD TO USE US IF WE DON’T GIVE OURSELVES AS A CLEAN VESSEL TO BE USED?

Jesus has already purified us through his blood. Accept his free gift of cleansing and salvation. Good fruit (actions) will be produced out of your life as you let him cleanse your mind. Without even trying to live right you will see subtle changes as you focus on Christ. Let him complete his work on you, rest in the fact that he is GOD and he is WAY bigger than you problems, sins, and mistakes.

LIVE A BETTER LIFE through CHRIST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love you, Jesus loves you more
Gab

How To Be The Girl EVERYONE Wants

"Gabs got the juice!" How many times have I heard this statement.  In other words, this slang phrase means, "she has numerous suitors and her phone is never 'dry'".

False. 

People look at me and think to themselves I'm sure she has plenty of guys and goes on plenty of dates, but those who REALLY know me, understand this is not the case.

Ok yes, plenty of guys like me, but it is pointless. I am not looking to be the most wanted woman. I'm looking to be an example of what a good woman looks like, and in my attempts to honor God with my body through purity, have found great interest from men. You're probably thinking, "HOW IRONIC! You mean to tell me men want you because not putting out and seriously behaving as a good girl gets you lots of attention?"

YEP! You don't have to be easy to be wanted.

LISTEN. I'm not attempting to brag about how many times I get hit on or anything like that, I am simply trying to set up a solid preface to what I would like to share in today's blog. 

What I have experienced is that plenty of men ask me for my number and attempt to hang out because they are intrigued, beguiled maybe, inquisitive, or attracted to how odd I am. They've heard the rumors that I don't  "put out" , and can't believe I really am a 'good girl' so they want to see for themselves.  For the few who do appreciate my strong values, they seem intimidated and feel as if they don't measure up when we begin to date.  I don't have the 'juice' aka real suitors who are marrying potential. I just have guys that are up for a challenge and then soon realize I am not a game. They learn early on that I practice what I preach on this blog and then leave me alone because they don't want to adhere to the standards. Im glad they do leave because it means they are not the one for me. Yet, what I have seen, because I stand out,  is that I am approached quite often and I have been proposed to (jokingly of course) more times than I can count.  I mean sure they probably think I am an attractive girl, but honestly there are plenty of BAD women in the world. I truly believe a lot of the attraction comes from men knowing they need a good woman in their life and fall in love with those qualities rather than just looks.

I am sharing this because...

According to the media, hottest teen mags, blogs, movies, etc., the girls with the best body, crazy kissing ability, and precise flirting expertise always get the guys. She is sexy, attractive, and great in bed. Everyone wants her because they know she is not too difficult to get into bed with and they get cool points from the guys for being able to get with her.

The easy girl has all the juice but no one wants to take her home to meet mom. The one who is marriage material seems so lonely because most men are getting their lives together and know they can't approach her seriously until they are mature enough to handle a good thing. She is not lonely, she is just preserved.

THE POINT OF THIS BLOG is that you don't have to be FAST to get all the guys. BE HARD TO GET! IF YOU ARE WORTH MARRYING, SHOW IT. Don't portray yourself as the easy target for a guys temporary fulfillment. Not only does it leave you broken but provides a false sense of self worth in a young lady. You are precious to GOD....ACT LIKE IT. Then the man for you will  RISE UP amongst the crowd and one day show you he's ready as God's prince to treat you like an absolute princess.

DONT SETTLE FOR THE FROGS BOO!

but Im gabbing…again...XO,
Gab

Nibble On This

I once heard this question posed before a group of youth. After a long day at school, would you like to come home to a quick, cold McDonalds set on the table or would you wait extra time for the best home cooked meal made from your grandmother?  Every one yelled in agreement the home cooked meal. They began to talk about the best southern meal they ever had. Most descriptions included mouth watering southern fried chicken, mash potatoes, collards, black eye peas, and peach cobbler. In comparison to a burger made without love, the home made meal seemed like a peace of heaven.

Now, when it comes to choosing the better meal, the choice seems so easy, but let's complicate the comparison. The one for you, your soul mate, is like the home cooked meal. They are made with love and TOTALLY worth waiting for. Those who you just utilize to fulfill temporary needs are like your fast foods. They are okay as a temporary fix, but not memorable and you could definitely pass on it knowing there is a better meal awaiting you.

OK, so human relationships are not as simple as picking a meal. I know this. What I am trying to point out is that there is a gift in waiting and not rushing into numerous pointless relationships. Fast food in excess, can lead to excessive weight gain, lack of energy, feeling unsatisfied, and cost you a lot of money in the long run. Fast and failing relationships may have much greater consequences. These include bitterness, emptiness, lack of trust, and many more. I don't have to elaborate on the horrors of multiple bad relationships. You don't want to carry this baggage, which can potentially cause problems when you finally meet someone who is worth committing to.

WAIT FOR YOUR HOME-COOKED MEAL. HAHA...and If YOU'RE the PERSON who represents the home cooked meal, the one worth the wait.. don't get weary in well doing 
(Gal 6:9). If you see people passing a great thing up, they obviously don't deserve your time. They probably would not appreciate a person of value if it slapped them in the face.

LOVE YOURSELF.

LOVE,
Gabby

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